I love my wife's body. Her tits are still perky, I love the nipple size, and one is a B and one is a C, so I have my choice... Her pussy has great definition, and clit is classic standard. Childbirth gave her more of an ass and some hips. She was a stick before that, and we fit together well.
Sadly, she has allowed pains to put her on the couch and get depressed, so she complains about pain all the time, but does little to fight and push past it. I have pain as well but I work through it, fight past it. She lays on the couch and that only makes things worse. When we do make love it is for 1/4 to 1/2 hour, and once she gets one nut it's over. granted it is good for straight missionary, but I like to eat pussy for an hour minimum to just get started. I like sex to last about two hours at least. I don't get what I need in time or positions.... so it never fully satisfies. My other aspects of sexuality are things like dancing, tenderness and massage and touch, and caressing, and it just ain't there. I like to sleep holding each other, entwined, and let arousal be met with satisfaction in quickies then. Then I like it to wake up to each other, and that can be a half hour. Six times a year just don't cut it. There is no excuse for that unless it is deathbed.
The other thing is bringing bullshit into the bedroom that just doesn't belong there. The bedroom is the place for peace and healing and connection, not to bring the fights and disagreements and angers and resentments from bullshit aspects of life. You can pollute the bedroom with that. That is where companionship has an effect of love, lovemaking, and lust. Lust on one level requires love to be functioning untainted and unhindered, and when it is it makes you happier, more fulfilled, and stronger. That heals things, fixes things and what is wrong in others and yourself.
Ripple by The Grateful Dead comes to mind... maybe my favorite Dead song....
Funny how so many songs say things people love to hear but never practice.... the ideal is easier to visualize and attain than that actual realization I guess.
I think if you can dream it, you can make it happen.